A divorce is a stressful ordeal, so most people want to finish the process as quickly as possible. The sooner you finalize your divorce, the sooner you can get on with your life. However, you may be unintentionally doing things that are dragging on the process.
Here are a few different ways you can unknowingly prolong your divorce.
Not Telling Your Divorce Lawyer the Truth
A divorce lawyer is a great asset to have during a divorce. He or she can guide you through the entire process and improve your chance of getting a fair settlement. However, your lawyer won’t be able to help you to the fullest if you don’t tell him or her the complete truth. For example, if you don’t tell your lawyer about every marital asset you have, it can make you look bad in court and delay your divorce. Your lawyer will have to work even more to mitigate the situation.
Taking Advice from Other People
When you’re going through a divorce, your family and friends may try to give you advice. While they might mean well, listening to their advice might delay your divorce. For instance, if your friends tell you to take your spouse for everything he or she has, it could make your divorce take longer to complete. It’s important to realize that you can’t get everything in your divorce. There needs to be some kind of compromise.
Letting Your Emotions Take Over
There’s no denying that going through a divorce is an emotional process. However, if you allow your emotions to take over your judgment your divorce may take longer to finalize. If you’re very angry with your spouse, for example, and believe that you deserve more in the settlement, you may not finish your divorce as soon as you had hoped you would.
Not Doing What’s Best for Your Children
Children are deeply affected by divorce. They are sad that their parents are breaking up and may even feel like they caused the divorce. That’s why it’s important to approach the matter gently with your kids. You and your spouse should have a discussion with your kids ahead of time. Tell them that you still love them the same and that they didn’t do anything wrong.
If you and your spouse argue over custody issues just to get back at one another, it will just hurt your children and prolong the divorce process.